DESIGN INSPIRATION: MODERN VICTORIAN

Hello, hello! Apparently I’m blogging roughly once a month right now?! Hoping to get in a better swing of things, but no promises.

I do want to chronicle more of our renovation process, because I know it’s something I’ll want to look back on when it’s all said and done. As we get closer to drywall (please, God?!) I’ve started thinking a lot about the design details, things like paint, flooring, trim, and the like, since those things will be happening shortly after drywall goes up!

My style has definitely evolved over the last several years, and it’s been so fun to pour over tons of visual inspiration and photos of different aesthetics to figure out what direction I want to go in for this house.

Our house was built in 1902, and although it didn’t have much original character, we are weaving in lots of elements that will make it fit with the folk victorian style. Some exterior trim details will put it in this camp, and I’m excited to bring in some victorian elements inside as well (with an updated, modern twist!)

So, “modern victorian is the style I’ve settled on, although it will be much more toned-down than typical victorian style. Maybe “minimalist modern victorian” is a more appropriate label? Or “modern victorian farmhouse”? I don’t know. Labels are kind of lame anyway, because I hate pigeonholing myself into one particular style.

That being said, I’m drawing heavily on victorian styles when planning the design of this house. Here’s my working vision board with my most favorite inspiration images:

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While the bulk of the house will be light + bright as far as paint, I’m excited to bring in some darker, moody colors as accents both on the walls and through art and furniture. I’m also drawing heavily on victorian elements such as floral wallpaper, ornate ceiling roses (I love these paired with more modern fixtures!), chair/picture rail and paneling on walls, botanical prints and elements, and I’m swooning for those dark painted stairs. It’s different than anything I’ve done before but I am absolutely loving the direction the design is heading and can’t wait to see it all come to life!

Any design trends you’re loving? Any other old home enthusiasts out there!? I’m so excited to honor this home’s history and roots while also making it practical and liveable for our family.

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P.S. Emily Henderson recently said “modern victorian” is the up-and-coming trend so basically I’m feeling very hip right now, ha!

BLACK FRIDAY DEALS + STEALS

Hey hey friends!! I’m shopping from the comfort of my bed today (do people still GO to stores?!) and wanted to share some deals and steals from around the interwebs for you! Whether you’re shopping for cold weather gear for yourself or your kids or looking for that perfect art piece for someone on your list, I’ve got a bunch of links below to help you out! Happy shopping!

COLD WEATHER GEAR FOR KIDS + ADULTS

  • LL Bean is offering 25% off boots + 20% off clothes and outerwear with code THANKS20. I’ve been eying this quilted quarter zip and this gorgeous fisherman sweater tunic! Plus, you’ll earn 4% cash back using eBates.

  • SmartWool isn’t having a sale, but they’re donating 3% of their sales today only to an organization that helps combat climate change - pretty cool! I got Xavier and Zelie both wool socks for their winter wardrobe. Plus, you’ll earn 6.5% of your purchase back in cash using eBates.

  • Land’s End is doing a BONKERS 50% off full-price items sale with code FRIDAY. I’m getting this puffer vest and this coat for Xavier! Plus 10% (!!) back when you use eBates!

  • Columbia Sportswear is having a huge sale and offering free shipping on all orders. Plus, they offer 10% (!!) cash back by using eBates! We love their fleece zip-up jackets for under the kids’ winter coats.

  • Bogs Footwear is doing 25% off with code HOLIDAY25. Bogs were the MOST recommended brand for kids + adults alike when I polled instagram for winter boot suggestions. Plus, earn 5% cashback if you use eBates! I’m eying these for Xavier; his rainboots JUST split, so I like the idea of these being able to pull double duty as rain boots and snow boots!

  • Kamik Footwear is offering 25% all their footwear through Cyber Monday! I’ve been looking at these boots for both kids if we decide to not order Bogs.

FOR YOUR HEART

FOR YOUR HOME

FOR YOUR HEALTH

  • The Balanced Life is offering 40% off their Pilates programs with code HOLIDAY2018. I’m part of The Balanced Life Sisterhood and I LOVE Robin’s truly balanced approach to exercise, diet and lifestyle. Tighten + Tone looks like the perfect thing for a post-holiday jumpstart!

  • Young Living is doing an amazing sale - 20% off 50 of the best-loved oils, as well as 20% off diffusers. See all the details here. If you’re not a Young Living member yet, you can grab your kit and add some sale oils to your cart all in one fell swoop - just send me an email and I’ll help you get started!

What other deals are happening today? Where are you shopping? Drop me a comment and let me know! xo!

JESUS WEPT.

"Jesus wept." It is the shortest phrase in the Bible (John 11:35) and yet it is, to me, one of the most powerful.

Jesus wept.

What does it mean to weep? I typically don't say I "wept" when I'm crying tears of frustration after being pushed to the brink by my kids, or when I stub my toe so hard on the door frame, or even when I cry tears of joy. No, to me, weeping implies something much deeper. Tears from the soul, that stem from a grief no words can encompass. A sorrow so deep it cannot be contained, so deep it must be given an exit, an exit in the form of saltwater streaming down my cheeks.

Jesus wept.

And I believe He is weeping now, that His sorrow over this massive wound in my beloved Catholic Church is so deep it must have an outlet, so deep it cannot be contained.

I, like so many Catholics, am shaken to my core over the findings of the Pennsylvania Grand Jury report released this week. I am gutted, heartbroken, sick, shattered, confused and, yes, mad as hell. I want to march on...I don't even know...St. Peter's Square with torches burning demanding an answer. I want to know who knew what, who covered what up, how high up does the abuse and scandal go? I want to know. As a member of this Church I call home, I deserve to know.

I believe wholeheartedly in the power of prayer. I believe prayer should be our first step, in every single circumstance. A terrorist attack overseas, a high school shooting in Florida, a police involved shooting in St. Louis. First, and always first, prayer. For the victims, for the perpetrators, for everyone involved. I know that idea is probably unpopular. What good is talking to God - usually in my head, not even out loud - going to do? But I take my model from Jesus, and Jesus prayed. He prayed a lot. He acted, of course. He healed and talked and acted (and flipped tables out of righteous anger) but first and most important, He prayed. He stayed tethered to his Father through an ongoing conversation with Him, and we simply cannot forget that.

I also believe prayer without action is futile. You can pray for a job all you want, but to offer those prayers without putting pen to paper on job applications is ridiculous. "God helps those who help themselves"; I've seen this to be true in my own life again and again. Pray AND act. PRAY and act. Pray and ACT.

We cannot simply pray for the victims of this horrific abuse. We cannot simply pray for healing for our beautiful Church. We cannot simply pray for a resolution. We can pray, and we must pray. And we also must act.

It's usually the acting that feels murky to me. What do you actually do? Who do you actually contact? What do you actually say?

I certainly don't have all the answers, but here is where I've started. I titled every email "Regarding the Pennsylvania Grand Jury Report."

  • I've emailed my bishop. You can copy the wording I used here (taken almost entirely from this post shared by @themerrierworld on instagram.)
  • I've emailed my parish priest. You can copy the wording I used here.
  • I've emailed the Director of Vocations for our diocese. You can copy the wording I used here.
  • I've emailed the Vicar of Clergy for our diocese. You can copy the wording I used here.
  • I've emailed the Papal Nuncio for the United States, who reports directly to the pope. You can copy the wording I used here.

I've been dialoguing with my husband and Catholic friends. Talking about the hard things, the questions we have, the ways our faith has been shaken, how we can move forward amidst such atrocities. Do not underestimate the power of community. The devil wants nothing more than to separate and divide, to make us feel as though we're alone in our sorrow, disgust and outrage. Fight his lies. There are millions of Catholics in the United States and I'd be willing to bet the vast majority feel the way I do.

I've been reminding myself that as gutted as I am, Jesus is a thousand times more so. As angry as I am, Jesus is even more. He yearns for justice more than I ever could, for healing more than I could ever imagine. No one cares about people the way He cares about people. No one wants to see His church rise from the ashes more than Him. And no one is more capable of carrying this heavy, heavy burden than He is.

Finally, let us remember what we're fighting against. It is not us versus priests or us versus bishops or even us versus policies and procedures, it is us versus evil. It is us versus evil.

And one group's hurt does not undermine another's. The victims' deep wounds do not negate the fact that all across the nation and world, righteous priests are also hurting. The priests' hurt does not negate the victims' deep wounds. Focusing on who's hurting more or whose hurt matters more does not unite us to action, it divides and weakens us. We - all of us, all across the Church - are hurting. And I believe Jesus can - and will - bear it all.

Let us rise up together. Let us use our prayers AND our actions. Let us not wait for change, let us demand it. Let us be the hands and feet of Jesus to heal these horrific wounds. Let us be the ones who say "I will not be silent. I will not sit idly by. I will stand it no more. I WILL NOT."

"We've had enough exhortations to be silent. Cry out with a thousand tongues. I see the world is rotten because of silence." St. Catherine of Siena

A few more links and posts I've resonated with, if you care to read:

This instagram post from @brickhouseinthecity was everything I wanted to express.

This instagram post from @shannonkevans

This instagram post from @themerrierworld

This instagram post from @thismessygrace

This instagram post from @findingphilothea

This "open letter from young Catholics" was spot on

Bishop Barron's call for a lay investigation.

Simcha Fisher's letter to priests.

Matt Walsh: there must be a purge in the Catholic Church.

Jenny Uebbing's essay on why she'll never leave the church.

A great article on the virtues of Catholic anger.

And if you're in the Diocese of Lafayette-in-Indiana, here are all the email addresses you need should you want to share your thoughts:

  • Bishop Timothy Doherty: bishop@dol-in.org
  • Fr. Dale Ehrman, Vicar of Clergy: derhman@dol-in.org
  • Fr. Clayton Thompson, Director of Vocations (oversees seminarians): vocations@dol-in.org
  • Papal Nuncio in the USA: nuntiususa@nuntiususa.org

Mary, Mother of God, pray for us.

UPDATE: Cardinal DiNardo's most recent statement is very encouraging, and gives me so much hope. Read it here.